DIVORCE: Can It Feel This Good?(1)
文章出处： 发布时间：2006-07-09
Nicole Kidman’s joyous face after completing her divorce from Tom Cruise tells a story. Why women often fare1 better after the break-up?
It is the moment that every woman-or at least every one who has had to endure an unhappy marriage-recognises. Head thrown back, actress Nicole Kidman lets out a scream of joy at the realisation that, this time, it really is over.
Kidman’s confidence that this is the right decision, is shared by millions of other women around the world. For all the evidence, both statistical and anecdotal,2 suggests that women fare better in divorce than men. While at the moment Tom may seem to be moving on at a rate of knots,3 chances are that in five years time it is Nicole who will be having the fewer regrets about their parting. So far, Kidman is providing a textbook explanation4 for why women cope better with break-ups than men.
She has been pictured in Australia with a separated girl’s most important friend - her mother. If, as reports suggest, Nicole is planning to move with her children back to her home country, she can count on a good network of female family members to help take the strain of single motherhood.
It is this ability of women to create strong sustaining networks of female friends that gets them through the worst days of divorce.5 Even if she is in a good relationship, a woman will have close girlfriends with whom she talks about everything that is going on her life. If the marriage breaks up, she still has that support system in place.6 Men, by contrast, are much more likely to report that their spouse is their sole confidante:7 lose the marriage and they lose their best friend.
It is this putting of all their emotional eggs in one basket8 which informs men’s different responses to divorce. The sensible ones get hitched again, and as soon as possible: in the over-45 age group they lead women in the remarriage stakes by almost 10 per cent. The sad ones, meanwhile, just get sadder.
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